In porn videos, it can be accurately said that people are “pretending” to have sex.
Now, at this point you might be saying, Well, duh! or What do you mean, pretending?
Of course they are actually having sex. That’s not the issue. By pretending I mean that the participants are not behaving as people would when they are having real and not pretend porn sex. You probably know the differences without being told what they are.
1. Exaggeratedly sexual dialogue.
By this I mean the actors (for lack of a better word) will use over-the-top language, tone or words, before they even start having sex.
For me, anyway, the fun is taking characters, putting them in a situation that is not inherently sexy or sexual, and getting them to the point where they are aroused, then seeing how they react. The funniest thing in the world is seeing a woman who is all prim and proper at first, get so turned on she becomes a completely different woman.
Instead porn videos go right for the most vulgar language, the most overtly sexual tone that they can get out of the actors.
2. Exaggerated or Over-The-Top situations/behavior/actions
Another mistake that many porn videos make is having people have sex in positions that aren’t even sexy, let alone comfortable, positions nobody in their right mind would be caught having sex in LOL.
Women don’t make noises like they do in porn movies. It’s been my experience, anyway, that women not make loud noises, or lots of noises at all. If anything, a woman will get very quiet when she’s getting pleasured.
When making love, even if it’s a quickie, there is a natural progression. Kissing and touching, followed by removal of clothes, followed by hands touching in various places, followed by manual and or oral stimulation of genitalia and or erogenous zones, finally followed by genital intercourse, depending on the video.
In porn – bam. They go straight for the sex. Foreplay is only for show.
3. Exaggerated orgasms.
When porn actors climax, they do so in such a fashion to leave no doubt they have just climaxed. This is not how real people have real sex, but everyone in a porn movie has over the top orgasms, especially the women – clutching sheets, arched back, toes curled, raising the roof off the building, all that.
4. And finally, my favorite, no cuddling.
Now it may surprise you, but my favorite part of the video is after the sex. The kissing. The caressing. The laughter, sometimes. Except in lesbian videos, there is none of that at the end. Just – bam. That’s it. End of scene, on to the next one.
Now, you’re probably thinking, why is he babbling on about all this?
Well, as a lesson. Mostly for myself. It is very tempting to write a sex scene in an erotic romance as a scene from a porn video. After all, fantasy plays a huge part in these scenes. But sometimes you have to step back and not rush things, another trap to fall in to.
Writers are readers, too, meaning we are just as impatient as the next fan to find out what happens next. So as writers we have to fight that tendency to rush through things and take our time, and no scene in the book is as important as the love scene, sex scene, what ever you want to call it. Depending on context, the chemistry between the characters, and especially how the scene figures into the plot, you as a writer have any number of options how the scene will go….. and what happens next.
Always, on to the next scene!
Peace, out. Namaste.
Jon Bradbury is the writer of eleven ebooks, including The Professor and Worst Kept Secret. His latest, Sugar Daddy, is published through Extasy Books and is available wherever ebooks are sold. He can be contacted by following him on Twitter @JonB1969.